Recently I found out that a friend had an early pregnancy miscarriage. I cried for her loss and remembered my own. I find that this is something that happens to many women. Age isn't the only factor. In fact many women don't even know that they are pregnant or were pregnant until the time of the miscarriage.
Regardless of when you find out, it is important to allow yourself to grieve. The grieving process doesn't change or not exist simply because you never had the opportunity to bond or meet with your child. Take a little bit of time to let yourself adjust to what has happened and to accept the loss. Don't just wave it off as inconsequential. The most common comment I received after each of my miscarriages was "don't worry you can try again." To me that always made me feel as though what I had experienced wasn't real or important. A loss is a loss and no matter how prepared you are for the possibility, the reality is never what you expected it to be. If you have experienced loss or know someone who has, you should know that someone cares, understands and will give you the room and time to feel your feelings and understand how it affects your life at this moment and in the future.
Best wishes and love to you all,
Jen
